So let me get this straight… Larry King is on his 8th divorce, Elizabeth Taylor is possibly getting married for the 9th time, Britney Spears had a 55 hour marriage, Jesse James and Tiger Woods, while married, was having sex with EVERYONE; yet the idea of same-sex marriage is going to destroy the institution of marriage…? Really??
It all started with this one status message that I had posted on my Facebook page and the mixed reactions that I had received from some of my friends ( in the form of text messages, FB mails, g-mails and one phone call) was shocking!
It was just the other day that I had posted a blog entry on the prevalent discrimination based on religion; and had some interesting conversations on religious tolerance, acceptance and patience. It was interesting for all of us (in the talk) to note that people are also discriminated on the basis of their sexuality! When I use the term “sexuality”, I am refering to a person’s sexual orientation towards to the opposite gender or else.
So coming back to the FB status; the reactions were instant!
(Please note- Specially to those who identify themselves with excerpts; I am using it to throw light on a point and not to hurt any personal sentiments. I respect all our conversations and also understand some were meant in light humour. Please take this post and the following in the right spirit!)
Within minutes of posting the above message, I first received a mail in FB
“ ….. so are you coming out with something? you want to talk? spoke to your parents? “
A text message on my mobile
” what on earth have you put on FB? have you lost your head to a chicken?”
Another message on my mobile
” ahahaha, not finding your type of guy i suppose….”
A gmail message
” such a rebel! loved your status but kindda edgy”
A comment of FB
“.. i now know why you delaying your marriage….”
Some meant it in humor but somebody (very dear to me) was serios on this matter, especially my sexual orientation and I had to swear on the Holy Book that I was straight and am attracted to men!
It then took to my thinking that people actually feel homosexuality is a problem. I then thought how would things be different if I am attracted to another girl and decide to live my life with her? Wont I still be the same daughter, friend, colleague?
I began reading on this aspect.I visited several forums and online discussions and found people stating homosexuality as ” against nature”. Well I can see their point, but then what about married couples who decide never to have children? How different are they to them? But come to think of it; are all are actions justified by the law of nature?
Another point that was used to justify against homosexuality was religion. But the same question here again- do we live our lives completly by the holy books? And isnt religion all about love and peace? So shouldnt love in any form be accepted?
Being in a relationship is one among the beautiful experiences in the world. Having someone to care aout you, who is willing to dedicate his/ her time for you or to stand by you is a big thing. A relation can be with anyone- mother, father, friend, uncle, wife, husband, children, boss, workmates; actually with anyone on this earth, even with an animal!
It is a feeling that makes you aware that you are not alone in this world. Some relations take names while some just remain special. I personally dont feel it is wrong if you decide to spend your time and life with someone of your same gender- it is the same feeling of satisfaction which you might be having with your wives, husbands, girlfriends or boyrfriends. So why would they be different?
I have not read enough on this nor have I meant people to comment and write further. But like in my previous post; I condemn any kind of discrimination be it based on religion, nationality, sex or sexuality. I know I cannt change the world (though I wish I could!) but even if a few of us change our attitudes and pass this on to the coming generations- the work is half done!
As humans we have right to life and as the saying goes “Live and Let Live”!